Thursday, February 17, 2011

Birth story

Well, here it is, my birth story! Free time is hard to come by, so this isn't going to be as in depth as it is in my personal journal, but oh well! Also, this is NOT a birth horror story.. in fact, it's quite the opposite, and I look back and am a little jealous of myself of how easy it was, because next time is sure to not be such a breeze. Oh well!

So at my 38 week appointment (I was 37 weeks and 6 days) I was feeling pretty miserable. I was super emotional and the last week had been really hard. I'd had Samantha at exactly 37 weeks and it was just hard psychologically going that extra week! My intention was to have my doctor strip my membranes since I hadn't been having any contractions (or so I thought) besides the same old braxton hicks I'd been having for the last 6 or 7 months, and I wanted to be Done! Anyway, while my doc was checking me, (oh, I found out why it hurts SOO bad when I get checked- I have a posterior cervix. Nice.) I asked him to strip my membranes, and he said that unfortunately, he could not. Because I had tested positive for the group B strep. I almost started crying, I was so upset! Then he looked at me funny and asked if I was sure I wasn't having contractions, because I was at a 5!! A 5!! I cheered up considerably at the news... 5 is supposed to be the magic number. They almost always admit you if you go into the hospital and are at a 5!! My doctor got all serious and talked to me more about testing positive for group B strep. He said it's no big deal if you have it, they just like you to be on an IV with antibiotics for at least 4 hours before you give birth, and then there aren't any problems, otherwise they have to do all these tests for infections on your baby. SO then he told me that if I started having ANY contractions I needed to go in ASAP. He said I didn't need to time them or anything, just go straight in! I was overjoyed, and decided to go home and do all the things (besides castor oil) that are supposed to help you go into labor.

Later that night, I was able to get some contractions going about 10 min apart, (they weren't painful ones, but the machine doesn't pick up how intense contractions are) and after they'd stuck around for over an hour, we decided to head on over to the hospital! I got admitted super fast-- they checked me and I was at a 5 plus (they said that's like a 5 1/2), and since I was having a few contractions and had the group B strep, that's all it took! My doctor actually told them to Not check me any more -he didn't want my water to break- so they hooked me up to the antibiotics (which was actually kinda painful.. I don't think I like IV antibiotics at all, it burned going in!), and I requested an epidural (aaahhh, not a good decision) so that I could sleep through the night (it was about midnight when I requested it). I got my epidural and it wasn't a good one. Apparently there is a slight curvature to my spine and he got the epidural a little to the right. I was beyond numb, like unable to move my leg by myself on the right side, and on the left it was just barely numb. Like restlessly numb, and it didn't feel good. At all. Anyway as soon as I got the epidural my contractions stopped, and the nurses were thrilled. 4am rolled around, and I'd been on the antibiotic for 4 hours, and they gave me another dose- I guess ideally you are on the antibiotic for 8 hours, but 4 hours is enough. So they gave me some more. They said my doc had a meeting in the early morning that was supposed to get over at 8, and that he would come in and break my water at that point. (I still wasn't contracting even a tiny bit)

8:15 rolls around and there's my doctor, all excited, and he breaks my water then heads over to the office (my doc's OB office is attached to the hospital). Still no contractions!!! 9 o'clock rolls around and the nurses hook me up to a very small amount of pitocin. By this point, my epidural feels even worse. No numbing at all on the left side, and kind of a dull ache on the right side. I start feeling contractions about 3 minutes later, and a little before 10 a nurse came in to check me and said I was 'almost there' about 5-10 more minutes. Well, after she'd been gone about 1 minute, there it was- the urge to push! I yelled at Jacob to call the nurse! The urge to push was SOOOO strong!! The nurses came in and informed me I would have to wait a few minutes for my doctor to come over before I could push. It was NOT what I wanted to hear! It was horrible trying to keep my baby inside! I didn't experience this urge to push with Samantha, because of the epidural, but it is STRONG. Anyway my doctor got there and I was able to start pushing. I was terrified of bursting open, so I held back and only pushed halfheartedly.. anyway it only took about 4 1/2 halfhearted pushes, and our sweet little boy was born at 10:08 am. The first thing Jacob said concerning the labor and delivery process was "everyone is going to hate you when you tell them you were in labor for only an hour" ahhh I am a lucky girl.

Now I'm just wishing I hadn't gotten an epidural, because everyone knows it's the "cool" thing to not get an epidural when you're Mormon (why, I will never know.. but it seems you get major cool points among fellow Mormon mommies..) As for me, I don't enjoy pain, so I intend to get one with the rest of my kids (ha! or kid..2 more seems like too many). As a friend of mine's husband says "You wouldn't go to the dentist and get a tooth removed without Novocaine just so you can say 'you did it' so why on earth would you not get pain medicine during birth just so you can say 'you did it'??!"

*** I would like to add that I know there are other reasons to not get an epidural, and that is fine, I just will never understand why people don't get one for the sole purpose of being able to say they 'did it'

UVRMC vs Orem Community

We've all heard it all before.. "Orem Community is sooo much better". When I was pregnant with Samantha and UVRMC bound, I brushed this off for exactly 1 reason: No one could tell me why it was so much better, because no one had delivered at both hospitals! I got uninformative answers when I asked why consisting of "it just is" and "the nurses are nice".

When I got pregnant with Jase, I was unconcerned with switching hospitals, but I definitely wanted a new OB! My last one(s) were horrible and never gave me the time of day. When I have a concern, I want it to be addressed, and not just brushed off and ignored, which meant I needed a new doctor! I had heard really good things about Dr. Young, and he truly is such an amazing doctor. He genuinely cares about his patients and loves babies and is so so nice. I love him! Though, I don't necessarily recommend him to everyone. If you are super low maintenance and your main concern is getting in and out of the office as fast as you can, do NOT go to him. Sometimes there is a really long wait at his office, because he'll have emergency C-sections or a bunch of deliveries, etc. and since he works by himself, sometimes he falls behind. But if you like feeling like your doctor cares about you and don't mind waiting to get extra good care, then he is for you!! (oh, and all the nurses at the hospital would comment on how much they liked him or how 'no one works harder than Dr. Young' when I told them who my doc was. Most of them go to him.) Anyway Dr. Young's office is attached to Orem Community hospital, which meant I got to deliver there! So, take it from someone who has actually delivered at both-- Orem Community is, in fact, significantly better than UVRMC. Here is why:

- the room was about 3 times as big. This is NOT an exaggeration.

- a huge jetted tub in the bathroom. Ahhhh I soaked in it multiple times while I was there.

-Not only are the nurses "nice" like I was told, but they are significantly nicer and friendlier.

-The cleaning staff is soooooo friendly. Weird? perhaps. But I totally made friends with our cleaning lady.

-Yummy food! Ok, I don't really remember much about the food at UVRMC, but it was really good at Orem Comm.

-Nourishment room. When I had Samantha Jacob spent like 20 or 30 bucks on food at the hospital, which is ridiculous (and who wants to run home and eat then come back? talk about inconvenient) At Orem Comm they have what is called a nourishment room. A room full of fruit, beverages, crackers, frozen foods like pizza and burritos and many more snacks for the husbands to eat while they are there. Very nice!

-Jacob had a fold out COUCH. At UVRMC he had a fold out Chair- very small and very uncomfortable.

Anyway, I'm sure there are more things, but it really was so much nicer and a much better experience- if you are trying to decide where to deliver, I hope this helps!

Thursday, February 10, 2011

The life of a pumping mom of 2!

I know everyone wants to hear my birth story. That is coming later. For now, I just wanted to write one little entry while I have a spare 15 minutes (assuming Jase stays asleep that long!). I have about 5 posts I need to write over the next couple of weeks, and wanted to jump on getting at least one done.

So pumping. Holy cow it's a lot different pumping with 2 kids rather than 1!! So, obviously breastfeeding didn't work out this time, which I am fine with. I don't have time to go into the details, but this time around I decided my No.1 priority was to enjoy him as a newborn, simply because last time I spent a long time being frustrated/depressed and even a little resentful of Samantha, just because breastfeeding didn't work out. I decided that was wrong, and of anything I wanted to do differently this time, it was That. Plus, my intent was to only breastfeed for about 4ish months anyway (I know, I'm a sinner!! But the hormones released during breastfeeding cause physical problems for me, and ultimately by stopping early is me putting my relationship with my hubs at a higher value than breastfeeding, which is 100% true... If anyone wants to know more about these physical problems- ask me, I'm an open book, but not to the whole internet ;))

Anyway, so breastfeeding didn't work out, BUT it is February, and I really wanted my sweet little boy to get the antibodies from breastmilk at least halfway through March during the flu/cold season. So that left pumping. I pumped for Samantha for awhile and it was a Pain. It takes 2 hands to pump, so if she ever woke up while I pumped, I either had to stop early or make her cry. Not fun. This time it's a little worse, because not only do I have a newborn, I have a toddler who is constantly in demand of my attention. Also, it doesn't help that Jase is an impossibly slow eater. In the beginning I was trying to increase my milk supply by pumping about every 2- 2 1/2 hours, but I HAD to decrease. This is how my 2ish hours would go-- 40-50 minutes to set up, pump, clean the pumping gear, and take care of my milk. Spend the next 30-50 minutes feeding Jase (see? SLOW eater). which would leave about 20-50 minutes until I had to start the whole process over again. Now, I'm not trying to complain, I definitely got myself into this, and now I only pump about 4 times a day, so it isn't as bad, but I guess mostly I wanted to discuss how pumping is the worst of both worlds (the breastfeeding and formula worlds, that is). Not only do you have to spend a LOT of extra time, you are stuck at home more, because unlike BF and formula, it isn't very transportable (I am renting one of those hospital pumps that are all big, this isn't a hand pump..) and you for sure can't do it in public. Plus you have to take care of and wash your bottles. You can't read or anything while pumping because it takes 2 hands, so it can get quite boring, you still have to deal with plugged ducts and sore nipples. It doesn't save you any money, because it's about $15/week to rent one (formula doesn't cost that much for a newborn!) .. Needless to say I'm excited to be done! I'm currently building up a nice supply in the freezer so that I won't have to pump too much longer! Thank goodness for that! Anyway, I know pumping goes a little better for some (though I haven't talked to anyone who did it with 2 kids of different ages) although the general consensus seems to be that pretty much everyone feels like they are stuck at their pump allllll the time. Which is how I feel. And it really isn't completely awful, and I'm grateful I can still give my son breast milk without getting frustrated with him.

Ahhh more posts to come soon, hopefully!

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

I spoke too soon...